F**k It Therapy

7114_c1F**k It Therapy: The Profane Way to Profound Happiness

By John C. Parkin
ISBN 978-1-4019-4079-9
Hay House, 2012

“F**k It (fuk-eet): to let go by realizing that causes of worry, distress, and pain don’t matter so much in the grand scheme of things.”

So many of us live in prisons of our own making—prisons of perfectionism, fear (that’s a big one), self-doubt, or . . . well, it’s a long list. These prisons of our own making are not real. We build them in our minds, and because we build them, we also have the power to say F**k It and blow the walls down.

John Parkin and his wife Gaia use humour and an easy style to encourage us to relax into the bliss we desire. (The Appendix of the book is an illustrated definition of the appendix.) The language is charmingly British, complete with entertaining footnote definitions of less-than-familiar British slang.

We tell ourselves stories about ourselves and the world we see around us. But they’re just stories. And these stories—the good ones, the bad ones, and the indifferent ones—can all turn into prisons for us . . .

Before we blow the walls that restrict our freedom down, we need to recognize what kind of prison we have created for ourselves. Parkin walks through the artificial realities people cling to and exposes them for the imposters they are: weight, money, relationships, career, and many others. At this time of year, I especially like his comment on materialism: “the interminable stuff we accumulate (which we carry slowly from store to dump) . . .”

The sooner we stop wanting that flawless body and that immaculate soul, the sooner we start having fun.

If you’re like me, when you envision a world of people saying “F**k It” and throwing in the towel, you see a world of couch surfers and unwashed dishes, a world of vacant factory floors and office phones left unanswered due to staff calling in sick. But according to Parkin,  it would not be so. According to him, F**k It therapy restores balance. People use it to both let go of burdensome responsibilities they don’t need to carry, or to free themselves of fear and self-doubt so they can take on exciting new projects.

Besides, Parkin uses a word that many imprisoned souls don’t free themselves enough to hear or accept: magic“Not witchy magic, but those things that might happen in ways that you really don’t understand: Positive, fantastic things; great life-changing things; healing and happiness things; things that leave you standing still in awe saying, ‘Wow, that’s magic.'”

With everyone being at different stages of their life journey, with many people unwilling to break down their “There is no such thing as magic” prison walls, with some letting go and others taking on, maybe it would all balance out. Parkin seeks balance, and he wishes it for others. He encourages us to relax and “be okay with NOT KNOWING” everything fully, ever.

EVERYTHING MUST GO is the sign in the window of one of the stores on the road outside this hotel. And it’s true: EVERYTHING must go, eventually.

Parkin’s ideas in this book are not new; they ring of A Course in Miracles, and The Secret,  and others. He recommends the centuries-old practice of Qigong. Parkin is not trying to be innovative, but he is trying to give all people an accessible tool to channel those ideas. While many would dabble in A Course in Miracles but not stick with it, while others might try Qigong without success, while many would reject the secrets of The Secret, everyone, everywhere understands F**k It.

Is there something you’re not doing that you would love to do? Which prison walls hold you back? Is there something you’re doing that you need to stop doing? What prison have you built to keep yourself there? Say F**k It and find out.


I was not financially compensated for this post. I received the book from Hay House for review purposes. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions are completely my own based on my experience.


About Arlene Somerton Smith

Writer, laughing thinker, miner of inspirational insights, sports fan, and community volunteer

Posted on December 5, 2012, in Book reviews, Books provided by publishers, Non-fiction, Self-Help and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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